Be the Best Version of Yourself
Even if you strive to ‘Be the Best Version of Yourself’ it isn’t quite as easy as it sounds. We can be our own worst enemy when it comes to chasing our dreams and living a life that’s filled with purpose. Some of us have a self-destruct button but don’t realise it and those that do, lack the tools and knowledge to change things. There are several bad habits that make it impossible to achieve success, but this article will help you overcome these daily challenges.
Silence your Inner Critic
Self-talk is a normal process we all experience, but once it becomes filled with irrational ideas it becomes ‘negative self-talk’. Negative self-talk is a story that goes on in your head bearing little resemblance to the reality of your everyday life.
Putting a positive spin on things is the best way to eliminate negative self-talk; exchange negative vocabulary, such as can’t, never and won’t, to can, always and will.
Don’t Criticise or Judge
Avoid criticising and judging others by not making assumptions; try to walk in their shoes and see the situation from their perspective. It’s easy to judge and label those who have ideas different from your own. But when you throw negative energy at people, not only do you potentially damage a person’s self-worth but you fill your head with negativity too.
To be the best version of yourself, you need to eliminate all negative energy.
Stop the Fear of Failure
Fear of failure will do one thing and one thing only; hold you back! Do you tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed or thrive so to lower their expectations?
It’s important to understand that failure is a natural part of life and doesn’t signal the end of the world, but failure can make you worry that people will think you are unintelligent or incompetent. Failure is needed because that’s when valuable insights are learned that can drive you to become highly successful in life.
Overcome your fears by analysing all potential outcomes, practice positive thinking, have a worst-case scenario to ease your worries and practice setting goals.
Don’t be Scared of Success
Success is a good thing, and everyone deserves to live out his or her dreams, but some people are afraid of success. Whether it’s a fear of more responsibility being added, raised expectations or simply not being able to handle success well.
Do you get nervous when everything seems to be going well, but in your mind, life can’t possibly be this good, so naturally something goes wrong as expected? Do you get close to making the breakthrough, but something, somehow, falls through? If these examples happen repeatedly, this isn’t a coincidence. It’s actually a fear of success. Fear of success hides in our subconscious and displays itself in scenarios like the examples above.
Handle success by staying authentic and remembering who you are. Accept that you won’t please everyone and be comfortable with every decision you make.
Stop People Pleasing
If any of the following descriptions apply to you then you are a people pleaser?
- I want everyone to like me
- I’m scared/I try to avoid disagreeing with people
- I never speak my mind
- I never say “no”
- I never tell someone how I feel, even when they make me angry
It’s time for you to stop playing the role of the ‘doormat’ and start putting yourself first. People pleasers are taken advantage of, prone to stress and depression and will develop resentment over time toward people in their lives.
Once you quit people pleasing, you’ll regain your sense of who you are and increase your confidence. Start living your life to please yourself.
Procrastination is just another form of laziness. Procrastinators are sidetracked by insignificant factors that ultimately affect their goals and therefore preventing them from becoming the best version of themselves.
Follow these tips to stop procrastinating:
- Make your actions precise and calculated
- Have some form of accountability established
- Set your goals up in a way that they are small, manageable, and easily achievable.